OTHERS ARE NOT THE SOURCE OF OUR HAPPINESS

Human beings require social interaction to remain mentally and emotionally healthy.  One of the fallacies of humankind insists that our value comes from being loved or being loveable.  It suggests being in a relationship makes you valuable.  A formula like that insinuates others are the source of our identity and happiness, which is destructive to self and relationship.  We must not rely on others for our happiness.

In Crazy Rich Asians, Astrid Leong discovers her husband had an affair.  As they are parting ways, she makes a remarkable statement.

“It’s not my job to make you a man. I can’t make you something you’re not.

In marriage, we often have an ideal of what our spouse will be, how they will look, how they will behave, and how they will treat us.  We force our ideals onto our spouse, often forcing them to live in conflict with their true self.  We try to make them something they are not. 

Inner conflict produces resentment.  Resentment produces contempt and condescension, which destroy relationships.  When we force our spouse to be something other than what they are created to be, we create conflict and unhappiness for them and eventually for us.

Additionally, we do this with our children, coworkers, neighbors, family, and friends.  We expect them to be something they are not.  We expect or force them to behave, speak, and engage the world in ways that are not natural for them, but seem right for us.

This faulty way of thinking indicates you have the cognitive distortion referred to as the “shoulds.”

DON’T SHOULD YOURSELF

If you are struggling in relationship with someone, first ask yourself if you are trying to make them something you want them to be rather than who they are created to be.  When you learn to support them in their true identity and help them attain their true self, they will be happy, and you will be happy.

So remember, don’t rely on others for your happiness and fulfillment.  Likewise, don’t be the source of happiness for others either.  It’s not your job to make someone happy and it’s not their job to make you happy.

Most importantly, stop should-ing yourself.

 

Candy Olandt

Chief of Staff

My role with Revitalist is one of providing a high level of administrative support, communication and relationship building between our CEO, Staff and other key Stakeholders.

Day to day responsibilities are listed, but not limited to the following:

Support and maintain the CEO’s calendar of events and meetings.

Attend meetings, take notes and disseminate pertinent information accordingly.

Support the CEO with email correspondences.

Support CEO, Executive Team, Lead CRNAs and other key Staff Members in the preparation of weekly staff meetings and communications.

Work closely with the CEO, Executive Team, Lead CRNAs and other key stakeholders to help drive strategic business planning, and support growth initiatives.

Act as a liaison for the CEO with the Lead CRNAs and other key Stakeholders.

Collaborate with CEO, Lead CRNAs, Executive Team and other key Stakeholders to help strategic ideas get off the ground, and provide early facilitation until a more formal project is established.

Act as a trusted advisor and brainstorming partner to the CEO, Executive Team, Lead CRNAs and other key Staff Members.

Proactively address pressing issues by calling them to the attention of the appropriate decision-maker and help to identify potential solutions.

Amanda Deleon

HR Service Coordinator

As the Revitalist human resources (HR) coordinator my professional administrative duties include being a liaison between employees and our benefits vendors and as the corporate resource for the employees.  I facilitate and coordinate with recruitment (hire to retire), maintain employee records, assist with payroll processing and provide administrative support to all employees.

Director of Admin Services at Revitalist

Ashley Brooks

I manage the Revitalist Athena EMR for front desk employees, clinical staff, therapists, and providers. Each clinic is different in its specific needs so I customize our EMR to what is needed to effectively run each clinic. I provide both in-person and virtual Athena training as needed. If any changes are needed for your specific location’s tablespace, please let me know. Email is the best way to reach me. 

Administrative services
Branding Services

I work directly with Fleetwood Photo in Knoxville with all our clinic orders. I order each clinic an initial start-up of items and they will be shipped directly to your clinic. When you are running low please email me your requests. Please allow 3-4 weeks for delivery.

Again, this is what will come in the initial start up order for your clinic, but if you have other specific requests, please let me know. 

Director of Insurance Services at Revitalist

Priscilla Bullock

Courtney Hobby

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Jessi Shattuck

Insurance Specialist at Revitalist

Adrienne Worley

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Nicholas Kalynych

Lead CRNA - Jacksonville, Florida

I offer mentorship and guidance for other lead CRNAs as they mature in their role as clinic leads.

Chief Development Officer

  • Provide a conduit to Revitalist corporate as a point-of-contact and liaison for prospective CRNAs and clinic owners
  • Consultation for administrative, operational, and financials in development and hardwiring our corporate infrastructure
  • Guidance structure with policy development
  • Mentorship and resource to clinic lead CRNA
  • Director of Compliance and Risk Management
  • Director of HR
  • Chairperson of the AAP Conference
  • Advisory Board Member

Director of HR

I am responsible for the planning, development, and oversight of the policies, activities, and staff of the Human Resource (HR) department; I act as corporate liaison to CBiz (our corporate partner-benefits provider). Duties as assigned and the following:

  • Plan, direct, and manage all HR initiatives, such as recruitment, compensation, benefits, training, and employee relations.
  • Implement fair employment practices.
  • Advise lead managers and employees and labor policies, such as ADA, FMLA, etc.
  • Helping develop employee engagement, feedback, compliance, and facilitate performance management.
  • Networking with veteran organizations, universities and colleges, behavioral health and anesthesia communities, and other health sectors to facilitate relationships and partnering opportunities.
Director Integrative SVCS at Revitalist

Deana Ferguson

I am responsible for the development and oversight of the behavioral health programs at Revitalist, which includes the following components:

Grant Whitfield

IT Support

If there are any issues with the printer, internet, wireless access, computer/laptop, phone, etc., send an email to Novatech at ticketupdate@novatech.net or call (800) 264-0637 and copy Grant so he can monitor progress.

Security System

If there are any issues with your CPI-managed security system, send an email to Karen Fusaro at kfusaro@cpisecurity.com or call (800) 948-7133 ext. 6250 and copy Grant so he can monitor progress.

Clinic/Maintenance Issues

If there are any issues with your clinic, like plumbing, electrical, HVAC, etc., send an email to Grant, and he’ll contact the landlord to work through who will handle the issue/s. If the issue is not under the landlord’s scope, he will contact an appropriate company to complete the work and introduce the lead CRNA for coordination purposes.

General Liability & Malpractice

If you have any questions about a policy or need help adding an additional insured, etc., send an email to Grant, who will contact Liz Rafferty (erraferty@cbiz.com) and AnneMarie Pirelli (annemarie.pirelli@cbiz.com) to handle the task.

Water Stations

If you have any questions about a policy or need help adding an additional insured, etc., send an email to Grant, who will contact Liz Rafferty (erraferty@cbiz.com) and AnneMarie Pirelli (annemarie.pirelli@cbiz.com) to handle the task.

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