The Power of Words

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Whoever came up with that phrase didn’t know what they were talking about!  Physical pain can often heal eventually.  However, words have the power to build up or destroy a person for a lifetime, especially if it isn’t addressed with a therapist. […]

Vagus, Baby! Vagus!!!

Have you ever wondered why you are so anxious? Your vagus nerve may be to blame. Vagus, baby. Vagus! The vagus nerve is the longest nerve in the cranial system and regulates your parasympathetic nervous system.  Not to be confused with the other Vegas, in which you lose your inhibitions and a lot of money […]

Choose Kind

If you haven’t noticed, the world is full of negativity, fear, and hate. There is a solid reason for it.  Our brains require it for survival.  Blame it on your amygdala.  It thrives on negativity because that is its function. In fact, it is instinctual.  It constantly scans the environment for things that will destroy […]

Pursuit of Happiness

Happy Fourth of July!  OUR DECLARATION As Americans, one of the reasons we observe July 4th is to commemorate and celebrate our many freedoms as a country and as individuals.  Our Declaration of Independence states our basic rights as human being derived from that freedom; life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.  Before it was […]

Sorry…Not Sorry

Do you ever find yourself over apologizing?  Saying “I’m sorry” for things you really shouldn’t? Sorry to trouble you.  Sorry I’m not making any sense. Sorry I’m rambling. Sorry I’m always late.  Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. People do it often and women more than men. Watch this comic look from Amy Schumer: https://vimeo.com/253499468   THE POWER […]

Wisdom from…Yoda?

DO OR DO NOT I’m a big fan of Yoda from Star Wars.  What could be better than a little guy you can carry on your back who will challenge your every thought and feeling?  In a pinch, you can use him to fight off any evil that tries to thwart your best efforts at […]

Why is My Heart in My Brain?

When we speak of emotion like love, sadness, or joy, we often say it comes from our hearts.  Well, in the words of Dwight K. Schrute, “FALSE!”   Emotions come from the limbic system.  And knowing this fact can help you manage your emotions more effectively.       See…Dwight says so!    INSIDE OUT – […]

Stairway to Heaven…or Mental Health

LED FOR MY HEAD Led Zeppelin’s 1971 hit, “Stairway to Heaven,” has had an indelible influence on music for generations.  Perhaps it is because the band takes you on a 7 minute and 55-second ride of every musical sound they had in their arsenal.  It has been the soundtrack to countless parties, group Bic illuminations, […]

Common Human Fallacy

OTHERS ARE NOT THE SOURCE OF OUR HAPPINESS Human beings require social interaction to remain mentally and emotionally healthy.  One of the fallacies of humankind insists that our value comes from being loved or being loveable.  It suggests being in a relationship makes you valuable.  A formula like that insinuates others are the source of […]

One Thing You Need to Transform Every Relationship

Several years ago, there was an entertaining video going around social media.  I use it in Marriage Enrichment Courses. It…well…just watch: Funny…and true…almost. It’s not just men who are “fixers.”  Some women have the need to “fix the problem” and some men have the need for someone “to just listen.”  Sometimes, we may be a […]